During the past week my life has taken a 180 degree turn. There was no warning, there was no easing into it. One minute things were one way, then in an instant everything changed. I am still reeling from it.

Part of all this change has resulted from loss. Loss of friendship, loss of the way relationships have been, loss of my ideas for the future, among other losses. In this life, loss is inevitable. Sometimes it is our choice, sometimes it is not.

As the smoke clears, I have had a few moments of clarity about loss. We tend to look at loss as negative, but there are also positives to loss. If we choose, loss can propel us forward instead of keeping us stuck in the mire. Loss can force us to look at things in a different way that we may not have seen before. Loss can draw us closer to God and draw us closer to others.

It is all our choice on the perspective we want to have on loss in our life when it happens. It may even be years before we can see the positive in it. Of course there is a grieving period. But wisdom comes with knowing when to stop crying in the pantry and screaming in the woods.  Wisdom comes in learning how to have loss make you better and more effective in this life. Wisdom comes in figuring out how to help others as a result of your loss.

As for me, I am getting there. I know that it takes time to readjust to these changes. As that great philosopher, Dr. Seuss, once said  “Don’t cry because it’s over; smile because it happened.”